Tears.

"I thought about how often this way needed in everyday life. How we feel lonely, sometimes to the point of tears, but we don't let those tears come because we are not supposed to cry."

- Mitch Albom

Tuesdays With Morrie

The idea of crying. How so often, it is related not just to girls, but the more important mistake: of weakness, of emotional instability. The Chinese were one of the first people to create so many quotes and sayings about, e.g. how a guy should not shed tears but only blood. And all that crap.

I feel it so important, to cry when you're feel upset, so down - that the first noise you'd make when you try to open your mouth to talk would be a tearful whimper. We are bred in a culture where crying is seen as a sign of weakness, an inability to tolerate or handle certain things. Yet, I pose the question - so what? Crying makes you feel better. When you're sad and you cry, you allow your emotions to wash over you, no matter if you're hugging your knees, a pillow, someone close to you, or even a stuffed toy. When you cry, you feel the totality of sadness overcoming you. You feel as if things welled up in your heart is suddenly and very uncontrollably letting themselves out. I don't quite know how else to describe such an experience.

It's better to let your emotions to wash over you, rather than let them well up inside of you and crush your heart from within.

So, to those of you out there - whether you're a boy or a girl - who cry and (yes) CAN cry, count yourself lucky. You have no idea how much luckier and blessed you are that those who can't cry - those who've been bred not to cry openly or even at all, those who have been so used to not crying they've feel so much worse because they can't, or those who don't allow themselves to cry because of social stereotypes. People may laugh and smirk at you, but deep down inside, whatever's hurting them is causing their heart even more pain than they realise themselves.

Don't be afraid or get even mildly uspet that you're emotional by nature, and when tears well up in your eyes easily be it when you get sad or emotional over something you're passionate about like your faith. Have a good cry, don't be afraid to lean on a friend or let it all out. Feel calmer and reborn the next day, in the waters of your own emotions. And let go.